Will murder, rape and sexual abuse ever end?

We have to accept this now that in this country there is a devastating “sexual issue,” which cannot be solved, and cannot be overcome. 

“Sex” hangs over our heads as a giant damnation. Because it is continuously oppressed with “bans and sins” and because there is a non-ending sexual hunger, every passing day, we are left face to face with an issue with sexual content.  

One day, you see that a woman was killed by her husband for wanting to file a divorce. Or the woman has survived by luck after being shot so many times. 

Another day, at the late hour of a night, a guy rapes a young girl who was trying to get home. Or an intruder climbs and breaks into the fourth floor of an apartment, first rapes the sleeping woman, then kills her. 

Then, another day, there is a guy who is a teacher, but lives his gross fantasies on small children. 

One incident ends, the other surges. 

Murders, rapes and abuses are so frequent, I doubt that newspapers can report and cover them all. The number of women murdered between the years 2002 and 2016 is 14,293. In simpler words, more than a thousand women every year are put to graveyards because men do not recognize her decision to separate. 

This issue has reached such a dimension that if it is not handled seriously and a serious fight is not launched, then this figure will multiply… 

In an incident in the Aegean province of İzmir, a divorced man has shot his ex-wife, thankfully, she did not die. She suffered 45 days in intensive care. The guy is in prison sentenced to only 17.5 years and he continues to send his wife messages saying that if “she ever has a man in her life,” this time he would kill her. These divorced husbands in jails threatening their ex-wives with death are countless…

In another incident, a 19-year-old girl was raped by two men from the same neighborhood. Because she resisted, she was beaten. Even though the sperms of one of the men were found at the spot, the local court released both of them on lack of evidence. A higher court, thankfully, accepted the objection and the rapists were arrested. The trial is ongoing.  

In the Central Anatolian province of Eskişehir, there is a man who is a teacher but is a pervert. He was put on trial without arrest for sexually abusing four girls in fourth grade. Why hasn’t he been arrested, who can explain? The court sentenced him to 26 years but the guy is still free waiting for the verdict of the appeals court. 

A separated husband, while at the stage of divorce, heavily injured his wife because she was wearing tights and had “loose gestures.” The court agreed to this, citing it was provoking, and reduced the sentence, but the Family Ministry objected, adding another four years to the sentence.  

There are many examples, but the issue is the confusion surrounding this topic. The reason is the state of immoderation. The same deterrent and just penalty is not applied to each incident. 

Well, the incidents are not exactly the same, but when a sexual abuse incident is interpreted as molestation then the penalty is halved. The reductions are also incredibly different from each other. One court has no reduction; the other one reduces the penalty to a meaningless level. 

As long as certain small municipalities distribute “how to batter your wife” guides to newly-wed couples, as long as crime, penalty, reductions and conscience opinion do not have clearer meanings, then it looks like the possibility to be freed from murders, rapes and abuses are unfortunately very weak.