Just back from vacation. That wonderful feeling of freedom and relaxation makes one more sexual, doesn’t it?
Flexible schedules, long and late breakfasts, late nights, the sand, the sea and the sun. More importantly, increased alcohol consumption. Loved one right beside you 24/7. What more can anyone want?
You know what I’m talking about. Everything seems to be easier, better, more optimistic while away from home on vacation. No anxiety, no daily schedule, no traffic, no errands to run.
Sex educator Logan Levkoff, the author of “How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You,” says, "More than anything, vacations should be about reconnecting with your partner and disconnecting from your daily life.”
I don’t know how vacation works for you. But I feel that we are horribly fooled by and extensively and negatively impacted by movies and television into an inflated illusion of “vacation and relationship.” We add more meaning to what a vacation is or can ever be.
ROMANTIC AND SEXY: TV star Pınar Altuğ kisses her young husband Yağmur Atacan during their Bodrum vacation. Hürriyet Photo
I mean if you have problems in your relationship, a vacation or a trip cannot help you very much. It can only give you unrealistic perceptions. If your partner can’t get it up, he is unlikely to be able to do so during your vacation. If you have a “cold” wife, then there is little chance that she will turn into someone who wants to have sex with you anytime, anywhere.
Romance by the poolside, long walks on the beach, watching the sunset while drinking champagne, no kids, no money problems, the feeling that your body is in perfect shape, the guy near you does not look at any of the girls on the beach, your wife doesn’t have a tummy and you have six packs, food is cheap and delicious with no foreseen digestion problems, no mosquitoes, planes arrive on time, no luggage lost, wonderful people around you, new and 100 percent reliable friends, all kinds of positive feelings whirling around you… Who would not want to be involved in sexual activity? Enjoy the best of one’s partner? Activate one’s own best performance? Try new things? Overcome boundaries?
That happens only in films and television serials. They happen in three minutes. They take up a maximum of five minutes on the screen. Real vacations are longer.